Maintaining Femininity in a Masculine Society

The hot topic in today’s society is women and our femininity, as I scroll through Facebook, or look at videos on YouTube,  I run into men and women debating about how women have lost their feminine qualities and have picked up more masculine traits. The premise is that we’ve become more masculine as we further our education, climb the corporate ladder, or get hit constantly with failed relationships. With the rise, in popularity of the late, professional self improvement guru, Kevin Samuels, men from all over are stepping up to say what’s on their minds. 

So when did  we lose our femininity? Are we actually picking up masculine traits? How can we get it back in an overly masculine society? Feminine energy is all of the nurturing traits it takes to connect to people in a meaningful and emotional way. It’s compassionate, kind, empathetic and patient . Embracing your intuition and creativity is a major part as well, Feminine energy is fluid and free. Masculinity involves displaying attitudes and behaviors that signify and validate maleness, and involves being recognized in particular ways by other men and women. Now I do find it strange that there isn’t a precise definition of masculinity which means, the interpretation is left up to each of us. So I will go further to define it as , to be assertive, competitive, and focused on material success. We all have both masculine and feminine traits regardless of our gender, but these energies must be in alignment and well balanced. Being overly destroys your feminine energy and is not attractive to a male. Men want the opposite of what they are, they want the ying to their yang so to speak.

So what are the traits of a feminine woman? Traits such as being nurturing, sensitive, sweet, supportive, gentle, warmth, cooperative, modest, having humility, empathy, affection, tenderness, and being emotional, kind, helpful, devoted, and understanding. Now we are in a society where more women are in the work force than not, so our masculine side gets expressed when we’re working toward a goal, making progress, getting things done, and pushing forward. Our feminine side gets expressed when we move with the flow of life, embrace our creative energy, dance, play, and listen to our internal voice. This is natural for us, but when we don’t turn off our masculinity, we’re often left feeling exhausted,  caught up in our mind and completely disconnected to ourselves  and who God created us to to be.  Now let me say that feminine energy also includes standing up for yourself, maintaining self sufficiency and having the power to know who you are. An empowered feminine-energy woman receives and inspires the people around her by having well-established boundaries, clear communication about her feelings, and knowing what she needs and wants.

Here are a few steps we can take to ignite the feminine power within us: Spend Time in Reflection; take time to listen to what’s going on inside of you, don’t lose touch with your inner voice which is such a huge part of who you really are. Be Creative; be free enough to paint, make things use your hands to create something new that inspires and or helps you. Then make a habit of doing it more frequently. Get Pretty; Put on your favorite dress, makeup and heels to get in touch with the lady in you. As women we hold a lot of power and wisdom , and feminine energy is far more connected to feelings and intuition. We should take the time to  lay down  overthinking and over analyzing. Ladies, we have to find our inner peace so that we can radiate peace, compassion and love. This is possible without sacrificing healthy boundaries.

Having inner peace is so important in maintaining your feminine energy, setting boundaries to protect yourself, your heart, your mind and your body. Be able to respectfully take up for yourself because expressing your expectations is not a bad thing. Being a woman doesn’t mean being a doormat for others or even yourself. Our femininity is not tied up in the opposite sex. It is what we are by nature, soft and sensitive, sensual and poised, full of inner beauty and strength.  We are the mothers of life, the nurturers of success and the supporters of change. Living in that knowledge should give us the motivation to be the best versions of ourselves, to prevail against the odds, stand firm on who God created us to be and not allow the world to change us. You have strength even in your softness, let’s go out and make the necessary changes to improve our future.

Kay Chantel